When managing feelings of anger, you have to stop and observe how you got there? Why am I angry? What is happening here? What factors contributed to feeling angry, why did I do this? Was it what people were saying? Why did I let this anger control me? Anger comes from feeling that we’re not loved. It can be depression and trauma because what has happened in the past, whether it be disappointment, hurt, or abuse. They’re hurting me with what they’re saying or what they have done. When we get angry, we immediately think we have to defend ourselves. In reality, we don’t. With Jesus, we can turn around and walk away, or take time to objectively understand the situation. We need to work on letting go of anger. Our happiness and wellbeing depends on it. The Lord is with us and will give us the strength. He tells us not to be angry. Pray and ask Jesus. What is the root of my anger? Take classes or seek counseling services to find out what the root is. Honestly reflect on what it is that keeps us angry. The past, the old ways, the people in our past that hurt us, release it all to Jesus. This is one of the top priorities you must work on in your life. The force of the enemy works in many ways to keep you feeling depressed and under the influence of anger. The enemy is always at work trying to keep you down. He has power over the world and is always at work. He takes our emotions, physical pain, past pain and hurts, and uses them against us to keep us unhappy. The enemy can encourage us to drink alcohol or take drugs, whatever we need to do to cover up this pain. When we are involved in these different pleasures- drugs, food overeating we are involved in. Our Lives swings back and forth like a pendulum sober and unsober feeling and not feeling. We are afraid of feeling because the feelings hurt. So we go deeper into our self, covering up our pain with whatever we can to be comfortable. These cover-ups for our pain will only last for a little while. And then the pain rises again, often worse that it was before. We feel we’re trying to attempt to reduce our anger to more tolerable levels. The Lord says the pleasure is just for a little while. This is very toxic to the body, mind, and soul. Holding onto anger and refusing to forgive releasing it to God is very destructive. Keeps us from growing in the Lord Jesus Christ. One of the ways to get rid of this pain is to recognize it and take it to the Lord and have forgiveness for whoever was involved in this pain, rejection, hurt. Accept the fact you have no control over this anger, but only God can help you get control and through it. And with him you can let go of the people that have hurt you or rejected you. One of the most important things is to recognize that most likely in all these situations it was not your fault. This is where shame and guilt come in. There is time that it is our fault. We then pray to our Lord to forgive us and give us whatever we need to forgive ourselves. One of the ways just to heal is that you have to admit to God and yourself that you are really hurting and you do need God’s help. When we let anger take control, we are helpless and let the hurt guide our words and actions. A person may be scared to death of appearing “out of control” to others and combat that by exerting anger to show they are in control. We may want to control people to keep ourselves from hurting. When we control people that are in our basket, then they can’t hurt us. Controlling people’s not of God. God does not control us. Most of all, we must recognize that we are not to do the controlling on any person. The love, attention, and support you feel is lacking from the outside world must come from God, not be sought in the world. When we expect people to do what we want, and these people don’t do what we want, we become vulnerable to anger and depression due to the extreme expectation that we want of other people. When people do what we want we have their support.
What is underneath your anger? You can deal with your anger and depression by surrendering it all to God. By viewing thing through the lens of Jesus, he can bring us peace and joy realizing that everything is so awesome. The disappointment you feel in not getting what you want can be devastating. It upsets you and can lead to depression to feel let down by others. We believe in our hearts that if we could control people to obey our personal demands, we will have true happiness.
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